“As a fair exchange… open wide your hearts.” 2 Corinthians 6:13
My husband has used a single illustration to help parents teach the art of
communication to their children. It might be useful to our female readers, as
well, in explaining to their husbands how to talk to them. It goes like
this:
Give three tennis balls to your husband and ask him to throw them back one at
a time. Instead of returning the balls, however, simply hold them. He’ll be left
wondering what to do next. Obviously, it isn’t much of a game. Then explain your
point—good conversation is much like a game of catch. You “throw” an idea or
comment to your husband (How was work?), and he tosses it back (Great! I finally
finished that project for the boss). If your husband doesn’t return it (Work was
fine), the game ends. Both players feel awkward and wish they were somewhere
else.
Of course, husbands and wives should do more than toss superficial details to
each other. They should practice sharing dreams, feelings, marriage, spiritual
goals, etc. But it all starts with playing the conversation game.
- Shirley M Dobson
From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James
& Shirley Dobson
Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights
reserved.
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